Keep moving forward — stop blaming others

I have spent the last few weeks talking to people who have been complaining about how their life has been negative in a number of ways.  They’re not happy with their jobs, their family is driving them crazy, they had a fight with someone and it’s bringing them down.

I have to admit — it took a subconscious toll on me.  I didn’t realize it at the time, but everything that I was seeing and hearing affected me in some way.  I allowed it to get in the way of my own happiness.  I even allowed it to stop me from looking at my own progress.

But, that stops now!

I was reminded, last night, that things are going well for me.  I may not have my dream job yet, and I may not have my dream house.

That shouldn’t matter!

What SHOULD matter is the fact that I am here, and I have a degree that I strived for.  It took longer than I expected.  That’s for sure.  Yes, there were hurdles along the way.  But, I conquered them and I am moving forward in pursuit of MY OWN dream situation.

Everyone has hurdles.  There is no escaping that!  But, it’s how you handle those hurdles that counts most.  Are you going to attack that hurdle and jump over it or are you going to trip over it and let it defeat you?

Ladies and gentlemen, life is going to happen — DAILY!

You’re going to have bad days at work.  You’re going to have arguments with people.  You are going to have days where your family drives you crazy.

Yes, take the time to vent.

But, are you really going to let one isolated situation get in the way of happiness — much less living your life?

To be sure — if a situation keeps happening, get rid of it.

Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

I completely agree.

Now, I’m going to sound a little harsh here — but I don’t care.

If you keep complaining about a situation but do absolutely NOTHING to change it, you have no choice but to look in the mirror because THAT is the person you should blame. It is YOUR fault!   After all, the other people are just living their lives.

You are the only person who has the right to affect your life.  People will do this, that and the other thing.  But, how YOU react to it is YOUR decision.  Nobody said you had to get upset by what’s happening around you.

Your only responsibility is to make sure YOUR life is in order.  By getting upset, you’re saying that the responsibility lies with someone else — as if they have control of your life.

They don’t.

To paraphrase the song by Talk Talk (and later covered by No Doubt), it’s your life, don’t you forget.

To also quote T.I., “live your life.”  It’s yours.  Not theirs.  Stop letting what happens outside of your affect you.

As I said, life happens.  It’s up to you to decide how you are going to deal with it.

Keep moving forward.

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